Case studies
*names have been changed
Mrs W.* age 42
Where we started
Mrs W. came to the Life Change People as a result of several years of feeling “stuck in a rut”. Her children were approaching college age, many of her friends seemed to have plans and goals for their lives, but she was feeling bored and uninspired by her job as a P.A. yet lacking in any concrete plans for the future. In her own words she felt “aging, uninteresting and pretty hopeless”. She knew she needed to change but didn’t know what or how.
What we did next
We asked Mrs W to complete our Personality Profiling Questionnaire, from which we compiled her Personal Feedback Report. In examining this with her we were able to identify potential strengths and sources of happiness, which increased her motivation to make some major life changes. We also identified several ‘change traps’, (personality traits and invisible patterns of behaviour) which were acting as barriers to achieving her goals. Mrs W was able to see that her major issues were negativity, anxiety and lack of confidence and she worked with her Life Change Practitioner on learning to understand the behaviours caused by these and establishing strategies to overcome them.
During her stay with us it became apparent that Mrs W’s family and work life was strongly focussed on supporting others. She benefited from the complete and individual attention she received from someone with the experience and expertise to guide her through a process of major life change. She established a Change Plan with clear and specific goals, and also identified areas of potential self-sabotage.
Where she is now
Mrs W. made excellent use of the three months follow up support, which she received as part of her Life Change Programme. Her Change Plan involved setting up her own business, a long held ambition that she had not dared to believe she might achieve. We supported her through several crisis of confidence, including the challenge of reducing her ‘day job’ to part time hours, and were thrilled when she let us know about her first success. She now has a business partner and aims to be fully self employed.
Ms S.* age 32
Where we started
Ms S was in a relationship, which no longer made her happy. She felt that her partner had become increasingly critical of her and they no longer enjoyed their time together. She was very aware of her readiness for long term commitment including children and this was not going to happen in this relationship. Despite her certainty that she needed to move on she felt “trapped and scared” and unable to do so.
What we did next
Ms S’s Personality Profile revealed low self-esteem and a tendency for self-defeating and dependent behaviour. She was able to devise strategies to cope with these with her Life Change Practitioner and identify a very common but debilitating change trap. Her motivation for change was strongly linked to the important role that family and personal relationships play in her overall happiness. Having identified these important elements and increased her motivation to change, she was able to build her Change Plan with the help of her Life Change Practitioner.
Where she is now
Using her ongoing support Ms S made the break from her partner in a respectful and dignified way and felt proud of herself for doing so. Her Change Plan included several strategies to improve her confidence and as she worked through these she experienced real benefits in every aspect of her life, particularly her family relationships. Her new confidence enabled her to establish new friendships and she has recently found a partner with whom she is planning a long-term future.
